how many times must a man look up, before he can see the sky?

Saturday, 02/25/17, 8:52am

OK. One week of TMS treatment completed. Five more weeks to go.

I'm still not relaxed when I go to treatment. I'm still tense as I sit still, receiving the magnetic pulses. I'm still scared even though there are so few risks and side effects. But the anxiety might be getting a tad better now that I've gotten 5 treatments. I know what to expect now, I now understand the treatment intensity thing a little better, and even though we're still not at the target intensity, I understand why we're where we are and I don't feel worried that this isn't going the way it should. It's going, I'm getting treatment, and we shall see where I'm at once I finish the 6 weeks of treatment.

I've had some good support this week. Friends and family have asked me how it's going, I've had 4 different people come to my treatments so far to sit in and watch and support. Another friend started up a meal train again (did I tell you friends did that for us last month??), and I've had many offers for help with TK.

I have so much to be grateful for.

And yet, as the way it often is with depression, that's not enough. It still keeps hitting, a lot. I filled out a questionnaire again yesterday about my depression, the same one I filled out a few weeks ago, which tries to quantify your symptoms into a level of depression. 

And this week has just been... hard. Really hard. I've felt like a failure as a mother, a failure at life. And the self-stigmatizing has been through the roof. Even though I understand rationally that this week was reasonably hard, the self-shaming is there, seemingly uncontrolled. That seems to be the case. There's that inertia effect to depression. As it spirals downward, it spirals down faster because it all feeds itself. It's a "positive feedback loop." Many of the symptoms of depression, like fatigue, weight gain, difficulty sleeping, irritability, etc, help to make the problem and self-stigmatizing worse. 

I hate it.

I hate feeling this way. I hate feeling worthless. I hate feeling so much self-hatred. I hate this.

It's hard to be positive when I'm feeling this way, but I suppose I should try. (Much of me doesn't get or believe in the power of positivity but then I also see the value in my affirmations. I do think that affirmations and balanced thoughts and mindfulness are very different from simple "positive thought". And I still fight this notion that I just have to "think positively"). So maybe instead of being positive, I'll just try to balance the thoughts.

This is a disease. This is what my brain does when I feel really bad. I am not a bad person. I am not a failure. I am working hard to get better and I accept my illness such that I seek treatment and have for a long time.